Kimolisa Was Here

I got more cards. I had joined a website called PostCrossing where people send post cards to random strangers. So far I've sent off 6 cards and received 2 according to the site, but I'm sure I've sent out more than that. You see, folks started sending me private messages requesting postcards from little ole Wadadli which is all well and good. The only problem is I've gotten tired of responding to these requests. It's not a simple thing mailing out postcards. There is the whole getting into town, then making time to buy the cards, then going to the post office and mailing them off. This is a bit strenuous as I don't work in town.  Anywhoo. I now only get addresses through the PostCrossing website.

If anything, this whole experience makes me appreciate where I live and makes me look at my island in a new way. I do live in Paradise, it's just a matter of stepping out of the day to day drudgery and enjoy it.

Below are a few cards I got and check out the Postcrossing page above to see all the cards I've received.

A wise man can learn more from a foolish question than a fool can learn from a wise answer.
- Bruce Lee 

All fixed set patterns are incapable of adaptability or pliability. The truth is outside of all fixed patterns.
- Bruce Lee 

Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do not go out and look for a successfull personality and duplicate it. - Bruce Lee 
As you think, so shall you become.
- Bruce Lee

I'm not in this world to live up to your expectations and you're not in this world to live up to mine. - Bruce Lee 
If you always put limit on everything you do, physical or anything else. It will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them.
- Bruce Lee 

If you love life, don't waste time, for time is what life is made up of.
- Bruce Lee 

If you spend too much time thinking about a thing, you'll never get it done.
- Bruce Lee 

It's not the daily increase but daily decrease. Hack away at the unessential.
- Bruce Lee 

Knowledge will give you power, but character respect. - Bruce Lee 
Love is like a friendship caught on fire. In the beginning a flame, very pretty, often hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. As love grows older, our hearts mature and our love becomes as coals, deep-burning and unquenchable. - Bruce Lee
Man, the living creature, the creating individual, is always more important than any established style or system.
- Bruce Lee 

Mistakes are always forgivable, if one has the courage to admit them.
- Bruce Lee 

Notice that the stiffest tree is most easily cracked, while the bamboo or willow survives by bending with the wind.
- Bruce Lee 

Obey the principles without being bound by them.
- Bruce Lee

Real living is living for others. - Bruce Lee 
 For more great quotes: http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/authors/b/bruce_lee.html#ixzz1JcNxsg9S

I fear not the man who has practiced 10,000 kicks once, but I fear the man who has practiced one kick 10,000 times.
- Bruce Lee Ever since I was a child I have had this instinctive urge for expansion and growth. To me, the function and duty of a quality human being is the sincere and honest development of one's potential.
- Bruce Lee

About The Talk

With humor and persistence, filmmaker Morgan Spurlock dives into the hidden but influential world of brand marketing, on his quest to make a completely sponsored film about sponsorship. (And yes, onstage naming rights for this talk were sponsored too. By whom and for how much? He'll tell you.)

The video

Will be watching this even if I have to watch it online.


This looks interesting

As I mentioned before I'm working on loving myself unconditionally (that sounds so sappy) and one of the ways I'm keeping motivated is by creating a feel good playlist. Below is the first set of songs for my epic playlist. Enjoy and if you can think of some songs I could add, just comment.



Create a playlist at MixPod.com

This movie is wrong on so many levels that I want to watch it


I so want to see this

Perhaps it's because I heard "Ride Up To My Bumper", this morning that reminded me of Grace Jones, but when I started to put together the list of famous people who inspire me, she was the first in the list. So why is she on the list? She's ballsy, she's not a conventional beauty, she has done so much in her lifetime, she is a cult figure and she lives life on her terms. What's not to like?!?

Let me begin by saying that I'm not usually brought to tears. It would take something so sad or so moving that actual tear drops would fall from my eyes. I normally say that my eyes are leaking. This clip made my eyes leak. It was simple fact that all these people were brought together from all over the world through technology and were capable of creating something so beautiful that it took you out of your environment and placed you in a plane created for the enjoyment of this one piece of music. This is so inspirational, so moving and I had to share. Oh and sorry about missing the last couple weeks with Ted Thursdays, but isn't this a great way to kick it off again?

About the clip

In a moving and madly viral video last year, composer Eric Whitacre led a virtual choir of singers from around the world. He talks through the creative challenges of making music powered by YouTube, and unveils the first 2 minutes of his new work, "Sleep," with a video choir of 2,052. The full piece premieres April 7 (yes, on YouTube!).

The video


Here are the two YouTube videos:

After seeing Easy A, I am an Emma Stone fan, plus this movie looks cute.


Just because....


I actually laughed, but is it big screen worthy?


I would watch it.

I've been resisting putting this project on my blog because it is kinda personal. Then I started thinking "What the heck, this is my blog and it is a reflection of me of sorts. Heck, this is personal!!"

So where do I start?

For a while, a long while, I would say I've been just existing. And by existing I mean

• Doing what is expected of me by family, friends, society;
• Wanting things that society says I must have, even if I don't really want or need them;
• Trying to please others, even though I think I don't really care what people think;
• Not going after what I really want, because I want to make sure everyone is okay with me going after what I want;
• Trying to do the right thing all the damn time;

What was the result? Sadness, low self-esteem, fear of trying new things, a slow and steady death of my spirit. Fortunately for me my spirit seems to be very fiesty and likes to put up a fight. This brings me to what I alluded to in an earlier post. And I will be honest with you, it rocked me to the core because here it was a new year, a new start and just bad stuff. Every time I accept it, I get pushed back down, and the funny thing is at that point there is only one way to go and that is up.

So I sat down and tried to figure out what I wanted, not what my family wants for me, what friends expect of me, What I want out of my life. It is only when I did it that I realized that

• Wrote down 31 things I love about myself. I chose 31 because that is how old I am and I plan to add one new thing on my birthday. I swear to you, I felt awesome afterwards. I've gone so far as to print it out so when I'm feeling down I can look at it and remind myself that I'm pretty awesome.
• Pampered myself. I gave myself a pedicure and there is something about having soft, silky toes and feet with my favourite colour for my toes. Also there is this sense of accomplishment and honest self love. The funny thing is I used to give myself facials and pedicures when I was a teen, I guess I stopped when I went to college. It made me feel very girly fabulous.
• Started going to the gym. I forgot how much I love going to the gym, pushing your body to the limit over and over and seeing the results. There is so much to say on this matter. First there are the two messages society gives off, 1) You have to be skinny to be beautiful, 2) Love the body you are in, no matter what size it is. But there is another message that is aimed to a niche in society, 3) Be fit and healthy, be confident and happy with the body you have and if you don't like it the way it is, change it. I'm listening to the 3rd message and an added bonus, endorphins, natural drugs.
• Finding the famous people who inspire me. There are a few famous people who inspire me. It could be their lifestyle, their spirit, their style, their business acumen, these people are truly inspirational. Over the weeks on Fridays, you will see who these people are and some of their quotes that hit home for me.
• Keep motivated. This could be hard, but I'm making a folder for when I'm not online and I need a little boost. It will include a lot of pics and quotes I've found on Tumblr, the famous people, my goals and wishes for life. Also, I'm putting together a playlist of music that guarantee to give me the added boost. Or I can just go outside and enjoy the warm sun and the cool breeze.

I came across this bikini on A Cup of Jo today and fell in love. It actually reminded me of when I was a kid and when we went to the beach and I was in a little frilly bikini. This was before I started to feel self-conscious because the unwanted my body was getting. My body is still not perfect, as I have a huge scar down my back and an irregular waistline, but since I've started working out and loving the body I'm in, I think I'm on the way to having a body that will be sporting a bikini like this.

What I like is the neckline which make her smaller bosom look awesome. I will definitely be on the look out for a bathing suit with the same neckline.

A little over a week ago, a male blogger posted an "article" on his blog that created a buzz on island. There was a lot of negative buzz from the female quarters and then negative buzz from the male quarters in response to the female buzz. I won't go into it too much, but the "article" had the results for an underground poll of men (although I don't think poll is the correct term for it). The men polled were to nominate women between the ages of 18 and 27 for particular categories and at a later date they voted on the "winner".

This is all well and good, but the categories are where the problem lies. Let's just say no self-respecting woman would like to be nominated for the categories as they are truly demeaning to women. Plus for the record, if they wanted to do a child-like endeavour and thought it was best to keep it on the down low when it came to the nomination and election process, then keep the results on the down low too. By putting these women names on the web, in an easily accessible location, they were bringing unwanted attention to the nominees and the "winners".

Now they would like to play it off that that is what men do anyway, they would talk about women refering to them as Butterface (her body is great, but her face isn't too pretty). They would say that women are too sensitive about their looks. Okay, fine, but if we flip the switch. What if we talked about the men? But instead of looks, we talk about performance.

We all know how men think they are so great in the sack, but we know that some of them can be selfish bastards. Let's see, where can we start?

Sorry I Don't Kiss Guy
"Yeah, I don't kiss," he would say as though this was something one has to accept and would have to live with. Hmmm, this isn't going to work. I don't know about others, but I've watched my share of Disney cartoons, rom coms, sitcoms and read my share of romance novels and in all of them there have been kisses, so you better believe, I'm looking for kisses. Be it the quick peck of affection, the lingering kiss that promises more to come later or the "I'm trying to lick your navel from the inside" kiss. Brother, you have to go.

This Is All About Me
They would sooner reach for the KY, because they don't care if you are anywhere close to being ready. They would pull out all the tricks they saw online, trying to eek out as much pleasure from your poor body. While hammering into you, he pushes your head to lick his nipples because that turns him on. These guys are the ones who will get the women with the low-esteem, because they know these women are so happy to have a man and will take whatever the men give. Shame on them.

2-Minute Men
Literally, two gosh-darn minutes!!! There you are wondering, "Wait, that's it? What! he fell asleep? Hell, I'm reaching for my rabbit.

Marathon Man
The opposite of the 2-Minute Man. It's as if he's trying to do every single position ever created, pulling out shite you never even heard about. He's the one who will give you an orgasm or two and not realize that for some women when they get the big O, they want to be let go and allowed to cool down from it. They don't want some hard thing still jackhammering at their sensitive lady bits. Get off, already.

Great Package, Poor Performance
They have the perfect package, not too long, not too short, not too thick and not too skinny. Perfect! Unfortunately, he has no clue how to use this perfect appendage, his rhythm is off, slows down at the wrong time, speeding up when he should slow down. Then just when he's about to take you to see God, he stops to try a new position. It's a damn shame.

Small Package, Great Performance
I'm not going to hate on these men, because they already have something against them, but when they know how to take you to see God, you meet Allah, Budha and Jehovah. I think they were so self conscious about their package that they bone up on how to turn a woman out. Hee hee, pun intended.

So-called Cunningulous Experts
On their lovemaking resume they have cunningulous as one of their many skill. Bonus! That is until they are in the position to perform. "Lord, correction Lawd! What the frick is he doing? Let me pull him up so that he stops and can focus on other pleasurable things." He better not ask me for a reference. For men who need some schooling, check this link.

Now, I've run out for now, but if you can think of more just leave it in the comment section.

I love men and this post is not to hurt feelings or come off being a man-hating feminist, I'm just being "real". If men want to objectify women, they should have to be men enough to know their shortcoming (pun intended). And to be honest, I've had my share of sensual encounters and there has been only one man who has ever knocked my O-ball out the park and did all the right things. Unfortunately, he is no longer in my life. I'm still hoping to come across a man who can give me two orgasms, one for my mind and one for my body and I think both work hand in hand.

 If only I had a ridiculously small space and the money to rock this out.

About the Talk

Volunteer firefighter Mark Bezos tells a story of an act of heroism that didn't go quite as expected -- but that taught him a big lesson: Don't wait to be a hero.

The Video

I am loving this video!! Where do I start? I love the slow sexuality/sensuality which is very refreshing. I like the artists, Lil Wayne may not be a lot to look at, but you have to give it to him for doing him. I love the dancing and the krumping, it's something powerful to see a man create something and own it.



Another video I'm feeling. Once again, where do I start? The concept was beautiful and well executed. The makeup was enviable, I haven't seen anything like this since Farscape (google it). The hair was, well, out of this world, seriously, no pun intended. On another blog I follow which focuses on natural hair, they likened the first styles to ancient African hairstyles, and the pics they showed made me excited to try them out when my hair is long enough. This was definitely and inspirational video, it had my creative brain cells sparking. And extra Kudos to Katy Perry, girl, when you came out with I kissed a girl, I thought you were a one hit wonder, but you proved me wrong. You've bounced from strength to strength, go on with your bad self.

I don't know about the rest of you, but as soon as I traversed the threshold of 30, my status became everybody's issue.

"Dude, I'm not into you, in fact I can't stand you. Having a conversation with you is as stimulating as paint drying. Honestly speaking, this is definitely a case of 'It's you, not me'."

Life is too short and my time is to precious to be wasted on people who aren't deserving of all I have to give.

I've mentioned this on more than one occasion, but 2011 started bad for me. Every now and then I would find myself crying, which is bad because I hate to think of myself as a victim to anything, as someone who has to reach out for support. There is also that thing about not wanting to be judged, I hate that even more. Every time I felt like I was coming to terms with it, I was dealt another blow and before I knew it a quarter of the year is gone. And here I am feeling bad for myself, things were suppose to be different, this was suppose to be my decade. Once again, here I am picking up the pieces.

Then today, less than an hour ago, I thought what would happen if someone tried to mug me and seeing I had no money, just shot me. What would be the first thing I would think, apart from the crazy pain shooting through my body? Would I be happy with the life I lived? Are there things I would have changed? Done differently? Would I die feeling okay that I did and saw all I wanted to see and do?

A lot of those questions had a resounding NO. You see I've been so busy living that I haven't been living. And every time I think of something I would love to do, I keep thinking that I need money to do them. Or I fall into the trap of "I Can't". I grew up where I couldn't do a lot of things because of the family business, and then when I got the freedom to do whatever I wanted, I still have the mentality that I can't do it.

So where do I go from here? I guess it's a matter of quiet reflection and then unrelenting focus. And if anything, I'll channel Bruce Lee,

My Definite Chief Aim

I, Bruce Lee, will be the first highest paid Oriental super star in the United States. In return I will give the most exciting performances and render the best of quality in the capacity of an actor. Starting 1970 I will achieve world fame and from then onward till the end of 1980 I will have in my possession $10,000,000. I will live the way I please and achieve inner harmony and happiness.

Bruce Lee

1969